Congratulations! You are a parent. And you probably look at this photo of someone sleeping with envy. Nobody told you how hard it was going to be. On social media your friends are posting loving photos of them and their babies. Everyone looks put together, and happy. They've even had the time to get matching outfits! Meanwhile, you haven't showered in days, are covered in mystery stains, and are about to reach your breaking point.
Welcome to parenting. It's the hardest adjustment that you have ever had. You have thrived in your life, had a great career, and always been very logical. And now that you're a parent, that logic is failing you. Using logic, reasoning, and reading baby books are only making you feel worse rather than better. You want to get to a state where you can enjoy your baby, a state where you can even take a shower each day, but are at a complete loss of how to get there.